Reflect on a recent discussion you’ve had in which you tried to persuade others to accept your point of view. What type or types of reasoning did you use? How well did your reasoning work?
The most recent discussion I have had where I tried to persuade someone to accept my point of view was actually last night. I went to Gordon and Biersch last night with a group of my friends. One of my friends that was there decided to bring her boyfriend with her. I have nothing against her boyfriend at all, but last night while we were at the restaurant my friend went into the bathroom and started crying. She said that he was cheating on her and texting the girl that he was cheating with while he was sitting at the table with us right next to her. My friend ended up going back to the table as if nothing had ever happened. When it was time to pay the bill, she bought her food and his. I was so shocked and angry at her for letting him mistreat her the way he did. So after we left the restaurant, I had a talk with her alone. I wanted her to see my point of view. I felt that he did not deserve her and that she could do so much better, I tried to get her to see, that you have to respect yourself if you want your boyfriend to respect you. I told her to look at it from my perspective. If she was me and I was her, would she tell me the same thing? I told her that the only reason he does this to you is because you let him. I tried to get her to see where I was coming from, and I listed all those reasons as to why she should take my advice and break up with him. In the end, after all that talking I did, she ended up staying with him. I guess my reasoning wasn’t strong enough.
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Wow, I think that this is a good example of using persuasive resoning it just sucks that it had to be such a harsh situation. I can understand where you are coming from, I have had the same thing happen to one of my good friends and she didn't listen to me at first either. It wasn't until after the boyfriend was caught in the act that she listened to what I said. In this kind of this situation, most of the time, they have to figure it out for themselves becuase they don't want to believe that there own boyfriend would do this to them. They are almost in denial. Hopefully she will come to her senses and listen to what you have to say so that something worse doesn't happen. I guess all you can do for now is be there for her.
This is a perfect example of how your emotions and feelings can take over your ability to think critically. I was once in a relationship like your friend is in now and my friends would also try to persuade me to break up with my boyfriend. I was so "in love" and my emotions took the better of me. I was blind to see that I was being mistreated. Eventually, enough was enough and I ended the relationship. But even with dozens of people trying to persuade me, my personal attachment to him was too strong. This is good to know when making our arguments for our next speech. We need to find ways to dig into peoples emotions and try to persuade them!
Hey Mikey
I totally agree on your position and argument you were trying to get your friend to understand. Trying to persuade a girl in love is the hardest thing you can do. It takes alot of critical thinking and I'm sorry to hear that your persuading technique didnt work. Unfortuantely your friend is going to have to learn the hard way. But from what you said to her I think that you had the right ideas and heading in the right way its just gona take longer for her to get the big picture.
It's unfortunate that your efforts didn't worked out how you wanted. A relationship is definitely one of those issues that is very difficult to deal with. That's how love works sometimes. But as much as she loves her boyfriend, she must be thankful to have a friend who tells her how it looks from the outside. All you can do at this point is be there, and i'm sure your presence and advice will be appreciated. I think that in order for your friend to see what's really going on, she has to find the strength within herself that she'll be ok without him. I think she's really dependent on him since being with him is what she's used to ...
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